I
can not completely agree with the statement that classmates are a more
important influence than parents on a child's success in school. In this essay
I will first focus on the reasons why I agree with this statement and then list
a few points why from my opinion in some cases is not true.
From
the one side, classmates have a significant influence on child's behavior and
his or her success in school. First of all, children spend much time at school.
Classmates have many things in common such as age, interests, homework and
classes after all. So, they discuss their impressions about a new teacher,
solve problems together, learn their homework, gain new knowledge and
experience and even make their own discoveries. Sharing all these makes them
closer. Some of them become friends and they spend after-school time together.
In addition friends tend to copy each other's habits and manners. For instance,
my little sister became friends with the girl who did not have good grades at
school at that time. It does not mean she could not have better grades; she
just had many friends who did not care about their grades. So, when they
started to spend their time together and share their interests, girl's grades
improved. They did their homework together, shared their dreams and exciting
moments. From this point I must agree that classmates can change child’s
attitude towards school.
From
the other side, parents have a great influence on children' success in school
too. For example if parents show an interest in their child's progress and talk
to him or her about the importance of learning I think their child will listen
to them and do his or her best.
Personally,
I believe that relationships between parents and a child play an essential role
in child's success in school. If these relationships are close and wholehearted
I am sure that parents should not be afraid of bad influence from the outside.
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Complete delirium of a dilettante. Absolutely no
knowledge about children psychology. Everything depends on the social status of
a child in the school or class. For example, if you think, that someone is
smart, you respect him and you want to be like him, or else you are not a
person and you just imitate whatever he does, and he says that smoking is really
really bad, because you will get a cancer and die, then you will be like “Mah’god,
this guy is pretty smart. I guess, I agree with him”, but things like this are
getting sick with the time, when with the times passing you start to listen to
him in every god damn question, without checking or even trying to simply analyze
what is that guy saying. Whatever he says, he is right, because he can’t be
wrong. For example you can bring me a saint padre here, and no matter how
scientific and strong my arguments will be, he will say that it’s all god’s
will. And really, I respect the one who started all this mess with religion,
because he was manipulating genius, and he knew what was he doing. And like
this, people trust and believe other people with higher social status than
their own, because believe, that one day they will be as “great” as them.
What
about parent’s influence on children, it was wrought with such an… utopian way,
like the only thing that motivates a 12 years old kid to do his boring homework
is a pair of sweet words from his parents. No, it’s not how you do it. It’s not
how it works. You have to understand what is interesting for your child, like
skateboarding, or something, and then you say if he will get higher grades, you
will buy for him a new cool skateboard with a half-nude woman on it’s deck or
whatever is interesting for today’s children, and guess what. That’s not all, you
can’t just manipulate a child saying “I will buy you a new skateboard, if you
will get a higher grade in your quarter-semester” or something. You have to
understand, is he really going to get perfect grades a year for a new skateboard?
Probably not. So the limit have to be not that long, but not too short. About a
month, or something. Also remember, that after that month, he probably will get
used to get perfect grades. As the much is his slavery’s limit, as something delicious
and expensive you have to get for him, it has to have a geometrical progress.
Also
boy’s friendship is not like girls, and that’s a long theme to talk, so I’m not
going to explain you the difference. Deal with it.
Also
wanted to admit one thing from text. At the end of last part, he says: “Personally,
I believe that relationships between parents and a child play an essential role
in child's success in school”. And admit it – he believe, he does not know, he
just believe. That’s fucking dogmatic, and the science (yeah, psychology is a
science) is not a place for dogmas or dogmatic people, because dogmatic type of
thinking is for degrading ones.
P.S. Just wanted to say that foul language is like a chili pepper, a bit of it will make your food delicious, but if you will spread on too much, it’ll make impossible to it your food.
P.S. Just wanted to say that foul language is like a chili pepper, a bit of it will make your food delicious, but if you will spread on too much, it’ll make impossible to it your food.